The Reckoning and the Rebuilding: A New Way Forward After Deconstruction

When Faith Unravels: The Valley of Dry Bones and What Comes Next

There are seasons when words come slowly, and there are seasons when they arrive with urgency, pressing to be spoken. Lately, I find myself in the latter—writing not just one book, but three. Each of them is a thread of the same larger story, capturing different places within me that reconcile healing and growth.

For those who have walked this road—the unraveling, the unmaking, the slow reckoning of what faith once was—I see you. I have walked it too. After 25 years in ministry, I spent a decade deconstructing the structures that no longer held me. I know what it is to stand in the wreckage, to wonder if anything will be rebuilt. I know the anger, the grief, the longing for something real.

But this book is not about tearing everything down, nor is it about rushing to rebuild on shaky ground. It is about what comes after. It is about the valley of dry bones, about learning to listen to what still carries breath. It is about embodiment—because faith is not just a set of beliefs, but something we carry in our bodies.

This work offers a path forward—one of discernment, self-agency, and deepening spiritual maturity. It does not give quick answers, but it offers space. It offers breath. It offers a way forward.

This is a book about deconstruction, but more than that—it is a book about becoming.

A Somatic Exercise: Breathing in the Ruins

If you are in the midst of deconstruction, take a moment with me now.

1. Find a quiet space. Sit, stand, or lie down in a way that feels natural.
2. Close your eyes. Notice your breath. Is it shallow? Is it held?
3. Without forcing, invite a slow inhale. Imagine you are standing in Ezekiel’s valley, where the bones have scattered, where the wind is beginning to move.
4. As you exhale, whisper this question internally: Can these bones live?
5. Pause. Notice. What shifts? What remains?

There are no right answers here, only space for listening. The breath does not demand belief; it simply arrives, filling the spaces left empty.

What Comes Next?

I’ll be sharing more as the writing unfolds. If this speaks to you, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Where are you in this journey? Where have you found breath in the midst of the undoing? Drop a comment or message me—I want to hold this space with you.

If this resonates, share it with someone else who might need these words. More to come soon. 🖤

elle miller

Inspired by Lewis Carole’s poem, The Jabberwocky, and one word, MANGALISO, I set out to focus on how others can daily experience the amazement (Mangaliso is Zulu for “YOU ARE AN AMAZEMENT”) of their own being.

There are frightful realities that exist, learning how to overcome them and thrive is what I am about in life and at work. Whether the “beast” is imposter syndrome, the inner critic, stress, anxiety, burn-out or fatigue there are ways to vanquish the obstacles that stand in the way.

Hi, my name is Elle Miller, and I am a passionate trauma-informed SOMATIC therapist (C-IAYT, 500 hr Therapeutic Yoga Specialist, 200 hr Experienced Yoga Instructor) who truly believes in the healing power of integrative mind-body-spirit modalities.

The greatest gift somatic therapy has given me is deeper breaths and a calmer mind, more connection to myself as I truly am as well as the ability to connect to others more authentically.

I’ve owned local businesses in Blacksburg, VA and Charlotte, NC for many years and have been involved in online leadership since 2004. I have a wealth of knowledge and experience that will help me help you, whether that’s in-person or online.

https://elledmiller.com
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